A personal blog of happy, pretty things and almost anything positive and inspirational I come across here at charmainef.wordpress.com
#GGLogs - a little experiment / personal challenge starting May 2017 - tracking towards #Goals and #Gratefulness for a more purposeful life.
See my life in pictures on Instagram (@charmainef | @hellogloop) & trade with me on Carousell @charmainef if you're also in Singapore!
I’ve gotten 50 awesome experiences on Carousell in the past 3.5 years since I’ve joined the marketplace – Singapore’s answer to eBay meets Instagram.
Thank you, followers, Carou-sellers, and Carou-buyers alike! ❤
Also – (3 other random reasons why) Re: #13ReasonsWhy – I’ve not watched this on Netflix yet. Don’t spoil it for me!
May Day Giveaway has a catchy ring to it. (Right?!)
It’s Kindness Day in Singapore come Friday, May 19th 2017
(The date I’ve decided to announce winners. Woots!)
And let’s face it – everyone loves contests.
I LOVE CONTESTS! AND FREEBIES. And unashamedly so!
To celebrate, I’ve decided to give away a Beauty Spatula from Every Dropworth SG$10 to 3 lucky winners!
THESE PRIZES ARE SPONSORED BY ME:
I bought a number of these and paid for the shipping from US to SG via VPost.
Sharing the love since I have more to give! ❤
What’s a Beauty Spatula?
If you’re a cost-conscious beauty consumer like I am, you’d find this a lifesaver reason to celebrate saving money – with this tiny stick, I’ve experienced the satisfaction of knowing that I’ve gotten the MAXIMUM utility of pricey beauty store potions e.g. my Lancome, Dior / Chanel liquid foundations & Laneige moisturizer with the tiniest of bottle openings… and couldn’t take the ridiculously low yield of tipping them upside down anymore.
You scrape the insides clean — aiyah just try it and you can thank me later.
If you’re residing in Singapore, and a Carousell user, read on!
[If you’re not based in the same country as I am, sorry! I might do something else for you next time! :o)]
To qualify for the raffle:
FOLLOW me on Carousell – @charmainef
If you’re an existing follower, GREAT. One less thing to do. Haha!
LIKE ❤ all 7 items I have on sale at the moment (including the Giveaway listing)
COMMENTin the Giveaway listing:
“Pick me! _________”
Let me know how your life will be changed with the Beauty Spatula.
Or what you’d do with it once you’ve gotten it! Just share a reason to pick you haha
Open to Singaporean residents who are legitimate, active Carousell users – and with at least a +1 review.
All 3 steps must be fulfilled for your entry to count!
Contest runs 29 April – 17 May 2017 (11:59PM GMT+8H)
Winners will be picked via random.org, and announced by 19 May 2017.
Friends, family and co-workers of mine – you can try your luck if you wish to since it’s determined by random.org – Haha! May the odds be ever in your favour. (See what I did there!)
Lastly – I reserve the rights to reallocate prizes should there be any form of unkindness (Hello – Kindness Day?) or silly requests / comments.
(e.g. “Can you come to my house / office and deliver this personally?” “Nope. Kthxbai!”).
And no, I’m not pulling an ultra late April Fool prank with this one 🙂
p.s. if you are keen on any of my items, the secret code word to a 20% discount for the month of May 2017 is ‘YAY50‘ on all items, excluding the Micke workstation from IKEA – (it’s my Boss’!) – thanks for reading all the way til the end! x
Hey everyone – it’s been a while since I last posted and I thought I’d shed some light into the reason behind the silence.
This is going to be pretty much the most personal post I’ve written to date, so grab a coffee and sit tight.
Here goes –
Before I begin… A disclaimer is needed:
If you think you might be suffering from depression, please speak to a trained counsellor, or practitioner who will help, or a close friend/loved one who can go with you. Do not be afraid of judgment and dismiss what could be manifesting as minor symptoms; depression can come in many forms and deteriorate if left unchecked, so please – do not take anything lightly.
It all began last year, when I left a pretty kick-ass job that was all about parties and fun stuff – and I had A LOT of drive for planning and ensuring everything I planned went PERFECTLY without a hitch.
With my Type A mentality and drive, I planned several events at once, and took pride and pleasure in ensuring all events were perfectly executed, and garnered the team strong commendations from satisfied clients and guests.
What I did not realise was that I had been running like a supercar with a faulty fuel gauge – I did/could not recognise the sign of burnout.
For example, friends and family alike noted that I had been really short on my temper, and I dismissed their alerts.
In August/September, a great career opportunity presented itself – I was invited into loyalty marketing for an infant and children’s nutrition brand. I leapt right at it, because I do have the heart for children, and the purpose really appealed to me!
But, when the reality of the super silent workplace hit me, along with the unfortunate development that my projects were on back burner (which meant that I wasn’t activated as a resource) – I dreaded turning up for work every day.
I started to withdraw from social activities, and talking to my friends because I felt unworthy next to them, and very much alone.
I left the company after 5 months, in February.
Within the same month, I asked to join a former boss’ team, and this time, I’d be back in advertising – but with a brand which is deeply meaningful to me, because I felt I could contribute to the building up of our nation’s stature in the world.
After months of running high-profile projects fairly independently, I buckled to the pressures of self-doubt, and second-guessing myself constantly.
The peak (or nadir) of depression:
I shut down, and started withdrawing into a shell, and felt no one would understand or could relate with judging.
My boyfriend would be the only person I’d turn to for support, and he was getting visibly and understandably frustrated.
I lost appetite for anything fun, tasty, exciting – it was like my world turned monochromatic – which was VERY distressing for a extrovert, to say the least.
For lack of a better way to express my sense of frustration, I would cry.
– At the workplace, with no apparent trigger, I’d cry at my desk.
– At home, I’d cry to sleep. And sleep often eluded me as well.
– In the car and when I was out with my boyfriend, I’d either go silent or weep.
– At church, I’d shy away from small group meet-ups and corridor chats pre- and post-service.
In retrospect, what was most difficult to reconcile was my inner depressive state and my outer appearances – I felt the constant need to keep up with the outside world’s perception of my self as a positive, happy, bubbly, jumpy personality.
…Was not as immediate as I had hoped!
I was sent off on mental break leave by my bosses for 4 days (including a weekend).
I spoke over the phone with a kind lady Any for 2 days, and was equipped with frameworks to own the recover process.
In addition, I started confiding in a trusted group of 10 girls individually (one of whom was a trained psychologist as well), who helped me track my progress and moved out of my fog of depression.
Through continual prayer and active conversations/debates about my situation, I am glad to have taken steps to treat the underlying cause of my depression – I had been tagging my own identity to how work was going for me, which was so off!
Depression remission (as referenced by Sarah Silverman/Ellen) is real.
I wouldn’t take for granted the danger of slipping back into depression lightly –
just because you’re clear of extreme lows and are in a clearer frame of mind to tackle the here and nows does not mean it’ll not come back again ever.
To be super vigilant, I will continue to reframe and challenge my perspectives, with the help of friends and loved ones.
Was it really that terrible? Yes, it was.
But do I regret having gone through this suffering? No, I do not.
In fact – I’m thankful for the added self-awareness from this episode.
As Any once said – there is a positive side to depression.
“You will find that this episode of depression will enrich your life experience, and help you to relate to others better, with your own brush with depression.”
I’ve recently found out as well, that October is Depression Awareness month, and many others have spoken out on it.
(See: Eelyn Kok’s story – she’s a Singaporean actress who’s been actively speaking out on this issue)
Check out some other readings/resources which helped me: